Feng Shui is a wonderful tool for freeing up the energy in your life so things will flow more smoothly. While it (unfortunately) can’t solve all romantic woes, it can help create a most positive environment for love to grow. Whether you are single and looking for a relationship or already involved with someone, Feng Shui can help you increase the positive flow of energy for love and romance. Below are ten tips to get you started.
1. Locate the Southwest portion of your home. Find the location where the Southwest meridian pointRose Quartz Hearts intersects the wall of your home. If you don’t know how to do this, you’ll find easy-to-follow directions in my book, Feng Shui that Makes Sense. This is your “Love and Romance” location. The element for the Southwest is earth (rock, stone, tile, etc.). One of the easiest ways to bring stone into this area is by adding a pair of Rose Quartz hearts in the Southwest area. The rose quartz hearts are available for sale HERE (click and scroll down). You can also use regular stones, items made from earth like ceramic, pottery, cement, quartz, granite, etc. Statuary and figurines made of earth are nice too. Remember that in feng shui, and especially in the romance section, we like to have things grouped in “pairs” so be sure to have two items made of earth in this area instead of one.
2. Choose artwork carefully. In order to enhance romance, choose artwork that feels romantic. Ideally have pieces that display images of pairs of things (two people, two cats, two birds, etc.). In fact, it is a good idea to maintain objects and artwork in pairs rather than single items or images of single things. Items should be arranged in pairs throughout the house and not just in the southwest. Avoid putting items in threes as the subliminal message is that there should be three people in the relationship instead of two; something most people definitely don’t want in a relationship! When things are grouped in pairs it reminds the subconscious that “two’ is a number that we’d like to manifest in our romantic life instead of the lonely number one.
3. Use romantic fabrics. For more romance, add romantic fabrics to your space. Silk, velvet, satin, and other luxurious textiles evoke sensuality. Make sure bedding is soft and cozy. Beautiful drapes that touch the floor are a great way to add the feeling of romance to any room.
4. Dim the lights. Candles and low lighting sets the stage for a romantic mood. In fact candlelight is the most flattering light to be seen in. Put lights on dimmers to be able to control the amount of lighting in a space when love is in the air! Battery-operated candles are a safe alternative to traditional ones.
5. Bring in the colors of passion! Shades of red, pink, and deep purples promote feelings of passion. You can choose accents like pillows, drapes, throws, flowers or artwork to bring these colors into a room, or be really bold and paint a whole wall that color!
6. Make sure to have a bed that feels romantic. In feng shui, a bed with a significant headboard, and no holes or slats in the headboard is preferable. Never choose a metal one. It can hamper sleep and certainly a cold, metallic headboard does not feel as cozy and sensual as a beautiful wood or upholstered headboard. You don’t need to have a foot board unless you choose to have one, but make sure the bed is beautiful as well as comfortable.
7. Let go of the past (literally!) Remove anything in your home that reminds you of past or failed relationships. This especially applies to old beds and mattresses!
8. Create “Kid-Free” zones in your home. If you have small children, make sure to create a “Kid-Free Zone”. These are areas (such as the Master bedroom) where children’s toys, pictures, and other items are not allowed. It is very important that the couple has a space to just be the couple, rather than “Mom and Dad”.
9. Allow only pictures of you and your partner/spouse in your bedroom. Keep pictures of other people (anyone besides the couple) out of the master bedroom. Pictures of other people can reduce the feeling of privacy and intimacy in a bedroom.
10. Clear your clutter. Keep clutter out of the Master Bedroom as well as the Southwest part of the home in order to keep the energies of love and romance flowing freely.
Once the outer work (the feng shui enhancements) in your space are in place, you may want to do some “inner work”. There are some truly wonderful books to help you be the best partner you can be in order to help your relationship be all it can be. One book I particularly like is called “Calling in the One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas. It isn’t really about attracting a partner as much as healing the parts of us that may be keeping us from experiencing a healthy, happy relationship. I highly recommend it!
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